2020—ALL OUT

Shot in Dec 2016 by Olaide Ajuwon

“…bruised and broken though we may be,

we know how to heal,

and heal again

how to reinvent in times of nothing

dance beneath the weight

of what threatens to break our backs,

how to pull laughter from our throats

when wailing was expected”

— We Are Ready (an excerpt from ‘This Is How We Disappear’) by Titilope Sonuga

A little Recap.

  • I was asked to resign from my job because they misunderstood me and felt attacked by my feminism/feminist tweets. This left me broke without a plan. I had just used all my savings to rent a place a week before the whole disciplinary action happened.
  • I did not write, or have the motivation to write one single piece of creative writing/fiction. As a full time writer, you understand why this is not good.
  • I battled PCOS, migraine and fibroid.
  • My relationship with my dad became estranged.
  • I had to leave my parents’ house after so much emotional abuse.
  • I lost close friends.
  • Developed severe depression, anxiety and low self esteem.

In pursuing some things, you’ll lose everything

— Pastor Emmanuel Iren

2020 General Highlights.

  • Social media is the craziest thing that has helped the world, but the one thing that doesn’t work for me. And yes, I’ve tried.
  • A major health issue can deter your life’s course; 100% change the way you think, things you like, love and hate. Life as you know it will change.
  • Help comes from those whom you least expect it.
  • I unlearned my fat-phobia, got over my low self esteem issues, and fell in love with myself again.
  • No matter how many times you think you got something, and you’re going to be alright, things can still go wrong.

On work:

Photo by United Nations COVID-19 Response on Unsplash

On my 2020 goals:

  • Write, as many things as you can: Done.
  • Volunteer in the church nursery in service to God: Done
  • Become very spiritual again and connected to Christ: Done
  • Find fulfilment in your work as a writer and teacher: Done
  • Read 50 books: Partly done (I read 46)
  • Get published in at least 10 literary publications: Partly done (I got published in 7)
  • Marry the LOML: Done
Photo by Clay Banks on Unsplash

Looking forward to 2021 — What to expect

The plot twist of life is that the story remains the same — Isioma Eluemunor

  • starting my missionary blog at www.steupwithsteph.com. Two out of three weekly articles are summaries of sermon heard in church on Sunday and Wednesday (so, posts will be on Mondays and Thursdays). The third post —on Fridays— is for the Bible fiction series. The blog is helping to advance—through the sermon posts— people’s understanding of the word of God. It’ll also going to bring the Bible closer to us with these stories. Step Up With Steph is a platform to join me as we advance our progress and joy in Jesus.
  • joining (already did in Nov) the Celeb Kids mission to teach young children the word of God. I am very excited about this because the teacher in me will stay alive with them. What joy it is to teach, but what bigger joy it brings me to teach the kids about the gospel of salvation.

On work:

  • writing (and publishing) my second novel — a book of short stories;
  • volunteering as a teacher at Talent Mine Academy;
  • continuing to volunteer as a writer on Stand to End Rape Initiative;
  • releasing brand new, relevant, online courses for writers everywhere;
  • enrolling and starting in 2 post graduate degrees- creative writing and education.


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Thank you for reading. I love and appreciate you all.



Stephanie Chizoba Odili.




Novelist, poet, and editor. Academic in the making. Purchase my books here—http://stephanieodili.com/books/

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